Episode 37

The Shift: How One Single Mom Moved to Mexico Sight Unseen

What would you do if you woke up one day and decided to leave everything behind—your city, your career, your entire life as you knew it—and move to a country you'd never even visited?

That's exactly what Diamond Polk did. And she's never looked back.

Diamond is a former Los Angeles realtor, a USC grad, a single mom, and now a relocation guide helping women move from the United States to Mexico. But this isn't just about changing addresses—it's about relocating your mind, your energy, and your entire relationship with freedom, safety, and what's possible.

In this episode, Diamond shares the real story of why she left LA, how she chose Puerto Vallarta sight unseen, what the transition was actually like as a Black woman and single mother, and how she's now building a business helping other women do the same through her retreat, The Shift, and her coaching programs.

If you've ever fantasized about leaving it all behind, starting fresh somewhere beautiful, or just giving yourself permission to imagine a different kind of life—this episode is for you.

Listen now, and then visit @citizendip_ on Instagram to learn more about Diamond's June 2025 retreat, The Shift, and her February group coaching program, Safe Passage.

Diamond Polk is a former Los Angeles realtor, USC graduate, and single mother who made the bold decision to leave the United States and move to Puerto Vallarta, Mexico—sight unseen. Now, she helps women transition from the United States to Mexico through soulful real estate guidance, her signature retreat The Shift, and group coaching program Safe Passage. Diamond's work is rooted in empowerment, spiritual alignment, and helping women relocate not just their homes, but their minds. She believes in making healing and relocation accessible, offering tiered pricing and pay-what-you-can options for hypnotherapy sessions.

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Transcript
Speaker:

Welcome back.

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This is Octavia and this is the podcast.

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I wanna start off and tell you about

how I met our next guest last year.

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I spent some time in Puerto Vita.

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I've been exploring like where I

might wanna live, and so I went

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to Puerto, I ended up there and I

spent about two months in Puerto

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Vieta, and I'm one of those people.

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I just roam around the neighborhoods

and find places and I just kind of.

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Where I end up is where I end up, and I

had been walking around the neighborhood,

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I stayed, I stayed in the Versailles

neighborhood, which is the foodie mecca of

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Forte Vieta, and let me tell you, it is.

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In fact the foodie area.

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But when I used to walk around

this neighborhood, I would see

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this black girl and you know how we

are women when we see black girl.

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And then I would kind of smile

and, but keep walking and

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like we would see each other.

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I was like I said, she must live in

a, but it was like after two weeks

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I was like, she's not visiting.

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She stays here.

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I think we both just

stopped in the middle.

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And I, I kept seeing you around the

neighborhood and I think we just.

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I was walking the dog and I was

just like, I'm gonna say something.

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As I saw her coming towards me, I

thought, I'm gonna say something.

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And she's just like this.

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Just like you could see

this glow coming off her.

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And so we just kind of stopped, I think

at the same time and just started talking.

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Her name is Diamond Polk.

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She happens to be from Los Angeles.

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I lived in, of course, I lived in Los

Angeles for several years, back and

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forth between Atlanta and Los Angeles.

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And as I got to talking with her,

I learned she was a USC grad.

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Shout out to my daughter's alma

mater fight on Diamond is a single

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mom and now a relocation guy.

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Helping women move from the

United States to Mexico, or more

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specifically to Puerto Vieta.

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But Diamond just isn't helping

people find the hows and why.

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Moving to Puerto Vieta, and so

I thought, I'm bringing her on.

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We are gonna find out about her.

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She has such an interesting story

and what her journey has been like

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and how she's using her gifts to

help other women take the leap.

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Let's get into it.

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Diamond, thank you so much for coming.

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I'm so excited to talk to you.

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Speaker 2: Thank you.

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Thank you for having me.

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I am excited to be here.

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I'm like, yeah, we talked.

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Speaker: We have been back and forth.

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I think I met you on the street like

maybe a week before I was leaving.

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I had already extended my stay

two weeks and I was like, I gotta

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get, I have to get back to home.

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And I thought, and you were like,

no, stay some more, stay longer.

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Extend your stay.

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But we went out to lunch right

before the weekend before I

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left, but we stayed in contact.

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And you have been as, I've been kind

of exploring where I might want to

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land abroad, you've helped me navigate.

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Mexico and all kinds of tips and things.

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You have been invaluable in helping

me navigate that system, but you

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also have this just amazing story.

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Let's start in the, in the

beginning you were living in Los

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Angeles, working as a realtor.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker: You're raising your daughter.

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Blossom is the cutest, most precocious

darling little thing, but was there.

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Okay.

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Anything specific?

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Is there incident or was it

just more a slow build or what

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made you say, I'm leaving?

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Goodness.

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Where do I, I feel like, and I feel

like you can relate to when you

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talked about you're the type to just

stay and you've extended your stay

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like I am very much that adventure.

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Girly too.

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And so growing up, born and raised

in Los Angeles and Compton and

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like went to school there and

all the things I always knew.

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There was more to just

living in, in la, you know?

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Mm-hmm.

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Knew I wanted to explore the world.

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I'd spent like a summer in Italy

for a fashion internship at

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USC, and I loved being in Italy.

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Speaker: That's so crazy.

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My daughter did, she went to Milan.

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Are you're into communications

or you're in business?

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Speaker 2: So I ha I minored in

Marshall and entrepreneurship

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in my major communication.

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Speaker: Yeah.

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She was in Annenberg.

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She, she graduated and

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Speaker 2: that, that is crazy.

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So why, and

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Speaker: I can't believe

y'all don't know each other.

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2012.

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Does it settle about right.

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Speaker 2: Oh, okay.

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So I bought Inex in 2012.

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Speaker: Okay.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker: Okay.

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Y'all are literally past each other.

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That's crazy.

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Speaker 2: My gosh.

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Okay.

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Yes.

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Okay.

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I loved it.

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It was, it was the best experience,

but yes, so that I feel like

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not actually even kicked it off.

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'cause I also used to do theater and

I'd spent some time in London doing

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theater and so I'd always wanted to like

travel, see the worlds, get out of la.

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Um, and then I became pregnant

with my child's father that I'm

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obviously not in a relationship with.

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But in that time, we had even talked

about raising our child in Costa Rica.

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I was like,

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Speaker: okay,

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Speaker 2: do it.

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And then when that didn't work out, I was

like, I will go have the baby in Bali.

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Me and my best friend were

like, which, the move to Bali?

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So I have very much always

been like, what's the move?

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What are we doing right?

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And it was this year, 2024, going into it.

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I had just ended a relationship with

someone that I literally thought I

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was going to like be with and marry.

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That tore me up and he was battling

an addiction and so it was just a lot.

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And I, the real estate

market had like slowed down.

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I went and got a corporate job

when I told myself I would never

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fucking do that again because.

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Post, like during COVID, I left my job.

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I had my daughter, I

started my own business.

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I then became a realtor,

so I was just on my own.

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And then when the market slowed

down, I was like, survival picked in.

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And I was like, let's go get a job.

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And I did.

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And I hated it.

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Speaker: You

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Speaker 2: hated it.

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My boss was black.

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Sometimes it's your own people

that fucking do you wrong.

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And it drove me crazy.

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Like I would, I was crying in the

car, I was crying on my way to

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work, dealing with traffic like.

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I just, I was like, what am I doing here?

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Like, so that really was the catalyst.

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It was a breakup that I was healing

from, and it was just the realization

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of corporate got me fucked up.

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And why am I working so hard?

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Like pay bill.

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Speaker: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean?

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And why is it so expensive?

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Why is it so crowded?

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Why are people so mean?

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Why am I shopping at trading?

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Yeah.

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And there's fucking

plastic in my pasta sauce.

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Like all these things kind of

just kept building and I was

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like, I gotta get outta here.

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And so that really was

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Speaker: the, it's interesting.

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I've been corporate agency PR for

the last 28 plus years, I think.

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And the same thing.

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I was already at a place where

I'm tired of pr, I'm tired of the

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rat race, I'm tired of the hustle.

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And then in 2022 I was diagnosed with

cancer, and then it was, yeah, I'm done.

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There's gotta be another way to do it.

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I always knew that I wanted to

retire abroad, but, and I kind

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of went through the same thing.

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I've traveled and I'll go someplace

for two, three weeks or come back and,

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you know, a couple of times and then

I was like, no, I wanna live abroad.

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And so like last year I

got to the place where I'm

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Speaker 2: feeling better.

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Speaker: I'm just gonna go, COVID is over.

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So.

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Same mindset, and I'm just like,

but I don't know what I'm doing.

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You've mentioned Costa Rica, you

mentioned Bali and, and then,

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Speaker 2: yeah.

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Speaker: Yeah.

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So it's like how did you, how did Mexico

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker: Land for you?

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Speaker 2: When I first realized

I hated my life and I was hating

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everything that was going down, I had

pitched to my job 'cause we worked

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remote, well, we worked hybrid, but.

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I was an executive assistant and I

was like, I can do this anywhere.

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And I had pitched, I was like,

Hey, what if I moved to Portugal?

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Would would that work?

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And they were like, no.

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Speaker: I was like,

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Speaker 2: and so at first

Port Portugal was on my brain.

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They had a really like

strong black community.

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I was like, maybe that would be, you know,

a good kind of gateway being black people,

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being with people that speak English,

like Portugal was really high on my list

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and as I started doing the research.

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The requirements were requiring,

and it felt like a lot.

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They wanted you to have housing,

they wanted you to have all

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these things that felt very

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Speaker: before you even get there.

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And I'm like, well,

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Speaker 2: yes.

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It felt very concrete, it felt

very, um, permanent with, and I

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was just in a place where I didn't

want to be tied to anything.

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Right.

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And so I was talking to my friend who,

whose family is originally from Helico,

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the state that Puerto Deval is in.

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And he was like, you should

just move to Puerto of Baya.

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Like you would love it.

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There's like a big LGBT community.

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It gives LA vibes like I

can just see you liking it.

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And so I had been to Cabo for my birthday

in:

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year later to Punta with a friend and

I'd stayed there a week and I was like,

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I loved it as I was working remotely.

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I was like.

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I could see myself living here, right?

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And so that I think

really started the bug.

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And so then when he said Mexico,

I was like, okay, why not?

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You know, it's close.

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It's like a two hour

flight from Los Angeles.

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So it didn't feel like this

huge move across the globe.

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It was like, okay, it's a hop,

skip, and a jump, and if it doesn't

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work out, I can always move back.

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And so that's how Mexico began.

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And then again, as a realtor, I

just reached out to, at the time my

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like sister or brother brokerage,

whatever you wanna call it here,

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they connected me with a realtor.

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That realtor then connected me

with someone in immigration.

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He had a lawyer that he knew, and so

everything just really started to flow,

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and I'm very much like, if it's easy and

it's flowing, like this is meant to be.

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Speaker: Exactly.

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You feel it, you have this connection

and you're like, okay, it's happening.

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It's all happening too easy.

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So like you're like, I'm gonna go where,

where, where the universe is leading me.

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Speaker 2: I'm doing.

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Speaker: So you decide,

okay, I'm taking my baby.

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I'm getting up outta here.

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How did you prepare for a move like this?

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Because it's not like moving to Detroit or

Atlanta, you're moving to another country.

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Speaker 2: I will say I

think I'm built differently.

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Honestly, I think something about

being a black woman, I just like,

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am so rooted in that we can do

anything that we fucking want to.

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And so that it just, like in the,

not even in the, the back of my mind,

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it's in the front for of my mind.

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I can do this, I can

do this, I can do this.

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I think that energy and me

being and being competent, I

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was like, I'm making it happen.

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You know?

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When I decided to have my daughter

and knew that I was going to be a

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single mom, I knew that that was

going to be challenging, right?

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And so it's like, well, there's

nothing that I can't do.

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Like at this time, my daughter was four.

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I'm like, like kept a

human alive for four years.

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Like I can really do anything.

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And so that right.

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Approach that I had to moving and

then again, it helped having, I

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don't know, it, it helped having

that real estate background of just

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knowing how housing and things works.

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It helped being connected with someone.

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And I was very intentional too that

I wanted to connect with Mexican

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people and people that are locals.

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And once I got really

clear on the move, like.

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I could then feel Mexico calling

me like, it's weird to explain.

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Like Mexico, I get, it feels very like

ancestral and it just felt like a move

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where my spirit guides were taking me.

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Like it just, yeah, I felt this pool

and so I was like, I'm going to be fine.

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I'm going to be taking care of, and

like I said, as everything just flowed,

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it just gave me that motivation.

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I will also say too though, you know, I've

been through years of therapy because of

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my child's father and things like that,

so she's very well versed in therapy.

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So I continued to be in therapy.

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Um, there's a very spiritual side to me.

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You know, I mentioned spirit guides

and so I was working with my kind of

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like intuitive healer, Loren Janelle,

who I'm doing a retreat with, and.

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I did readings with her.

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I listened to her meditations.

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I was literally talking to trees.

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I fucking kid you not every goddamn day,

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Speaker: like on walks, like,

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Speaker 2: good morning, Mr.

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Tree pumping me up.

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Like, okay, did she like here moving,

you know, and writing in my journal.

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Getting again, very

clear on what I wanted.

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I wanted to look at the mountains,

I wanted to look at the water.

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Um, I kept writing.

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I know God has my back, just everything.

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So that is really what prepared

me, like having the logistics of,

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okay, I'm working with a realtor

and I'm working with an an attorney.

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And really that's like,

that's the hard part.

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Speaker: Right, right

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Speaker 2: between the mental

and the mind work stuff.

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Speaker: Yeah.

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Because you're moving to a different

country and so it's not just like

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moving across country, you're

moving, you know, globally into a

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different culture, different set of,

you know, values and just things.

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So like talking realistically

in the real talk.

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What has the reality of living

in Port the Vita been like?

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So, the good, the challenging

and everything in between.

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Speaker 2: I get it.

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And when you like

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Speaker: things are guiding you.

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And the moment I got to met, I

was like, oh, I like it here.

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I feel so free.

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And it's.

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Yeah, so I get it.

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When you're talking about, it just feels

like everything is happening so smoothly

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and everything just is falling into place.

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You, you had some connection with

the real, real estate, and the other

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part of that is just your mindset

and changing your mindset, and then

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like as a black woman in Mexico and

as an American black woman in Mexico,

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do they even like us right now?

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Yes.

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What has your experience been like?

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With community security belonging.

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Your daughter, this is probably,

you've been there, what, two years now?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, A year and a half.

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Speaker: Yeah.

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So this is all she's known?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, kind of.

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I would say like her core memories.

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I mean, she definitely remember

being in Los Angeles, she's always

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like that marriage, no, whatever.

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But yeah, I would say too, to even

talk to touch on some of the other

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stuff that you were mentioning is like.

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You need to get out of your bubble.

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I think people need to get out of

their bubble because the US will

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make you feel like everywhere else

is crazy and ghetto and trash.

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But the reality is, is we are in

the trash, in the ggo in the us.

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Like,

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Speaker: yeah,

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Speaker 2: seriously.

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I protected my move.

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Like I didn't tell people what I was

doing until I didn't tell I I were here.

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I would not even until I was

here, 'cause some people knew.

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Right.

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But like.

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I think once my immigration was going to

be finalized, you know, then I started

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telling people, and then once I started

to sell stuff, um, but I would get people

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that it's like, oh, it's so dangerous.

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It's so dangerous.

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Are you scared?

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Speaker: Right?

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Speaker 2: I'm like, they shut the fuck.

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I am a black woman in America.

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Like, what do you mean

I I can handle anything.

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Again, I, I kid you not, I just believe

that firmly that I can handle anything,

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but you have to get out of your bubble.

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And being in another country,

you have to be flexible.

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So like I said, I was very

intentional with my move.

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I was very intentional of like,

I don't wanna be like them, like

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white Americans or other, just

like white people entitled people.

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Right?

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Because again, some of us, not

all skin focused, skin folk,

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but I was very intentional that

I did not wanna be a colonizer.

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I didn't wanna come in

and try to change Mexico.

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I Right.

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I didn't.

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I want to come in and not even

try to speak the language.

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And I think being from Los Angeles,

again, just naturally being spiritual

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and empathetic, and a lot of my

friends are Mexican too, it's like

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I'm around that culture already.

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And so it felt very easy.

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It felt very comfortable for me.

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I was practicing Spanish, so

again, I move with the intention

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of like, this is my new home and I.

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Want this move to work.

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You know, this was not really an

experiment, although I knew I could

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come back if it didn't work out, but I

always was like, this is gonna work out.

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This is my home.

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This is where I'm raising blossom.

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So yeah, things that, that I had to deal

with in in community, I'm being welcomed.

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I feel very welcomed again, because

I came in here not on some, do

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you speak English shit, you know?

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They saw me, they saw my

daughter, they saw us trying.

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So effort really goes a long way.

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Again, knowing what I know about

Mexican culture, like community

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and family, was super important.

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And like when we arrived, it was during

the rainy season and we were in the

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romantic zone and our power went out.

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And so all the neighbors were so

nice being like, it's okay, amiga.

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Like the power will come back

on, like blah, blah, blah.

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Very comforting.

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I smile like everywhere

I go, I'm always saying,

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Speaker: yeah,

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Speaker 2: you have to have

that joy in that light.

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Right?

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I've left where I was mad at all the

time, so why would I come here with

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that same attitude and that same energy?

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Exactly.

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I feel like we are welcomes again.

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Any in person backlash, but as

I've been starting to speak more

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about my story and I wanna help

more people move, I have been,

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Speaker: yeah,

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Speaker 2: bots maybe, you know, talking

about we're not welcomed and don't.

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Colonize and I, that's just a fear

that they have an understandable fear.

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Speaker: Understandable.

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Speaker 2: It's not my intention.

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And so I was very firm in what my

intention was in creating a safe space for

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blossom, creating a safe space for myself,

learning, being open to this new world.

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And again, like I said too, feeling

like my spirit guides brought me here.

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I had did another reading with

someone and she was like, when you

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get to Mexico, just thank the land.

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And honestly, that's what I did

and that's what I do every time.

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Like I walk through, there's so

many beautiful trees that are

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like arches and it just feels

like I'm walking through a portal.

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And so I just feel like having

that energy and that excitement has

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made this move really easy for me.

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Speaker: Yeah.

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And having a respect for the people,

the culture, the land, like you said,

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you know, having respect for the land.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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I,

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Speaker: I think sometimes we

go with our privilege and our

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entitlement and we expect people

to speak to us in our language.

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And you know, we're in a

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Speaker 2: different country,

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Speaker: we're in a

different country, we're

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Speaker 2: in a different country.

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Speaker: And that was, yeah, and that was

one of the things, I still can't speak it.

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Fluently, but I was like, I know

a lot of key phrases and I can

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whole very basic conversations.

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And so when I was there, you know, I

would just start talking to people and

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I would, you know, and one guy, one

guy was like, oh, you speak Spanish?

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And I do not.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker: I was like, I do not.

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He's like, the words is you do know.

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You know them very well.

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Like, hey, I can all out with the best of.

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Speaker 2: Yes.

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They love that.

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Yeah, they

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Speaker: appreciate

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Speaker 2: that.

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Every time I'm in an Uber, it's

always like, just practice.

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Just practice.

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Just practice.

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And so it almost brings out the

kid in Me Too, and being in another

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country because there is that

freedom there that like curiosity.

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There's that sense of play, and.

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There's no like pressure of

like getting it right or wrong.

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You know what I mean?

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Exactly.

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In the US though, they make it seem like

if you don't do something right, you suck.

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You don't belong.

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You don't you, you don't deserve

to be here, like all the things.

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But here, that effort

really goes a long way.

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Speaker: Exactly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker: And so you've started

building your community

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Blossom is an amazing school.

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She has, you know, building her

community and with that, you're

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also building your new reality.

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You're building a whole business

around helping women do the same.

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Tell us about that and

what you're creating.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so I was a realtor

in Los Angeles, and the reason I

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got into real estate in Los Angeles

was the murder of George Floyd.

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And I saw that and I was like,

black people need something.

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We need to own homes.

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And so homes as active

activism was my full.

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Purpose of getting into

real estate, right?

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To help black, brown,

disenfranchise, gay, whatever.

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Whatever you are.

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If you were not allowed to buy a

home, I was helping you buy a home,

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and I took that same energy and

applied it here for people that didn't

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feel like they belonged in the US

anymore, ready to fucking unplug.

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They were waking up.

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It's like, okay, well

you can move to Mexico.

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That is an option.

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Let's do it the right way, right?

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Let's do it with intention.

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Let's do it with like integrity.

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Let's humble ourselves.

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Let's be open to the process, right?

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And create a new home and

create a new sense of being.

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And so just like home.

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Ownership safety has like always been

the core of my brand and what I do.

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And so that was me

starting this new venture.

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I joined a real estate brokerage here in

Porto Vallarta, Daniel Chim Sian, who's

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also on HGTVs House Hunter International.

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So if you, oh

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Speaker: wow.

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Okay.

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I'm always looking at that show.

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Speaker 2: Yes, and so just

part joined that brokerage.

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I started doing rentals.

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I just started sharing my story online

and just started helping people move out

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here slowly, step by step intentionally,

and just help them navigate the

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process, like what I wish that I had,

and also basically what I did for

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myself too when it comes to the mindset

work, but doing it for other people.

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I would say too, even prior to moving

and like looking at Portugal, you know,

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I'd found some creators that help you

relocate, but it was so expensive.

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Like it was just so expensive.

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And I was like, it can't be that hard.

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Like I definitely don't

like devalue anyone's work.

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Everyone has their price.

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But I was like.

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It shouldn't be this hard,

like it cost this much.

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I'm very big on that.

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Like life should not be this expensive.

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I did not ask to be here.

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My soul chose to come outside

a hundred dollars, you know,

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Speaker: 200.

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Speaker 2: Why?

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If I need to go to work, it

costs me 50 to get there.

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:

Okay.

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Like, uh.

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I didn't want to be that and do that.

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Right.

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And I wanted to also

help single moms move.

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And so I, a lot 'em just thought

went into what I was doing.

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:

And so that's how this all came to be.

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Speaker: How does, what does that

look like for the next single mom

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with two kids and how do you help

and what does that look like?

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:

Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a

few steps in the process.

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I work with you one-on-one.

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I'm also now starting group coaching,

which I'm really excited about.

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:

But we have a checklist

that's tailored to you, right?

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:

Some people have to sell their

house, some people wanna keep

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their house and rent it out.

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:

Some people are renting.

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:

So it's like we decide on,

are you clear on the move?

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What do you feel like

you're leaving behind?

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What kind of mental roadblocks

are you dealing with?

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:

And then we get into the logistics

and that is like, well, do you

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qualify for financial solvency?

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Do you have familial

ties to Mexico already?

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You know, and, and that's pretty easy.

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:

I connect you then with the

facilitator and they handle that.

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:

Then everything else is really

like accountability partner, right?

534

:

Like, okay, did you do this?

535

:

Are you downsizing?

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Speaker: You would do that to me.

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:

Like, Hey, did you

538

:

Speaker 2: sound back?

539

:

Hey, did you reach out to so and so?

540

:

Because again, we're

in a different culture.

541

:

So yeah, people in Mexico

are not as proactive.

542

:

I don't wanna say that like,

'cause Mexico, Mexicans are

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:

hardworking, but they're not on

your ass trying to sell you shit.

544

:

Like, Hey, I need this

and here I need that.

545

:

So.

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I'm like, did you reach out to them?

547

:

Do you have your paperwork?

548

:

Do you have, so it's that reminder.

549

:

And then we're working on mindset.

550

:

So what's coming up for you?

551

:

Some people are like, it's

really hard for me to downsize.

552

:

It's really hard for me to sell.

553

:

Or people are saying this,

or I'm watching the news.

554

:

And it's like, okay, well you

gotta, you gotta turn that off.

555

:

You have to go inside yourself.

556

:

And so it's tailored really

to like your individual need.

557

:

But it really is just like handholding

and like, come on bitch, you got this.

558

:

Like, bitch, you'd rubber finish line.

559

:

Speaker: And you are also

doing a retreat, a little bit

560

:

of what we were talking about.

561

:

It really takes a mindset shift to move

to a whole different country or to even

562

:

consider this, and it's so much that goes

along with it in getting to that point.

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:

Tell, tell me about your retreat.

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:

Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so I moved

to Mexico fight unseen.

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Like I had visited, like I said,

Cabo, I'd visited Punta, but I'd

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never been to Puerto Vallarta.

568

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And so because I was.

569

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So sick of my own shit in LA I

move sight unseen and that's not

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the reality for everyone, right?

571

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So this retreat serves as a soulful

relocation, almost elevated scouting trip.

572

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Where you spend a week here in Puerto De

Vallarta, I connect you with facilitators.

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Immigration.

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We have like medical brokers, so

people that you can talk with similar

575

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like what you've already done, where

you can talk to people and say like,

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well, I have these kind of ailments,

or you know, how do I find a doctor?

577

:

What did the average

cost of this and that.

578

:

We then also look at housing

so you can get a sense of what

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does your budget get you here.

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Then if you have kids,

we also do school tours.

581

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We do neighborhood tours.

582

:

So again, it's all of the logistics

that go into a move that most

583

:

people want to have solidified

before they make the move again.

584

:

Mm-hmm.

585

:

I was getting the rule and

I said, get me the fuck out.

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I'll figure it out.

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:

Speaker: Right, right.

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:

Speaker 2: Having been here a year

and a half, I now am like, okay, I've

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learned this and I've learned that.

590

:

So that is that.

591

:

That part.

592

:

Right.

593

:

And you are held with locals

here that know po de baar to

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:

like the back of their hand.

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And then there is that spiritual mindset

side of everything where Lauren Janelle

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also comes in, we do your birth charts.

597

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Um, we do traditional Mexican ceremonies

here, so we'll do cacao ceremony.

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We're also gonna do a Tes Macau.

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:

I don't think I'm saying that

right, but it's the, it's like you

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get in this kind of like hut cave.

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:

Okay.

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Kind of considered the mother's womb

or earth's womb and you just sweat.

603

:

It is a,

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:

Speaker: a stunted life

Native American process.

605

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

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:

Speaker: They, they do that

in Native American culture.

607

:

It's called a sweat lodge or

purification, but it's spiritual.

608

:

But they do the same thing.

609

:

They go into a hut and you're there for a

couple of days and it supposed to detoxes

610

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Will not be there for days.

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:

We'll be there for hours,

however long you can handle.

613

:

But yes, like, so a lot of like

inner child things come up, right?

614

:

Mm-hmm.

615

:

Two.

616

:

The move is also about safety.

617

:

You wanna feel safe in where you're going.

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:

There's usually a lot of anxiety

when it comes to the move.

619

:

Mm-hmm.

620

:

So we tackle all of that.

621

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We do a manifestation workshop.

622

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We'll just have downtime too,

where you're able to connect.

623

:

There's an optional mushroom ceremony.

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We'll do some mushrooms and

we'll do some journaling.

625

:

Again, it's just about

getting outside of your mind.

626

:

Getting outside of yourself, because

yourself is usually your worst enemy.

627

:

And then there's also some

hypnotherapy in there as well.

628

:

'cause I'm in the process of

getting certified hypnotherapy.

629

:

Yeah.

630

:

So again,

631

:

Speaker: so you're doing all the things.

632

:

Speaker 2: All the things.

633

:

All the things that help

you have a successful move.

634

:

Truly.

635

:

And not even just a move, but have

successful integration into the community

636

:

because it's just tips, it's tricks.

637

:

It's, Google said this was open at 10, you

get there at 10 0 5, it's still closed.

638

:

Like calm down baby.

639

:

You don't have to go on

Google and write a review.

640

:

Calm that inner us, Karen.

641

:

Okay.

642

:

Quite lot.

643

:

Speaker: They'll get there.

644

:

When they get there.

645

:

Speaker 2: When they get there,

and that's how life should be.

646

:

Get there when you get there, it's fine.

647

:

Go walk and get a coffee.

648

:

Go enjoy, go take your time.

649

:

Right, right.

650

:

It's, it's really about slowing down.

651

:

And then also we do on

the, the logical side.

652

:

Excuse me.

653

:

We also do like a cost of living

where we go to a local market and

654

:

you can see like what you can get.

655

:

And in that experience as well,

because when I got here and I

656

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went to a grocery store, I was.

657

:

So overwhelmed.

658

:

I spent three hours and I

had a 4-year-old by my side.

659

:

And I'm like, what?

660

:

But

661

:

Speaker: you know what?

662

:

I went to one of the big grocery stores

there and I was like, I don't know.

663

:

And I had my little translator

app and I'm like, what is this?

664

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

665

:

Speaker: And then I found myself

actually going just to the

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:

little neighborhood markets.

667

:

Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

668

:

Speaker: I enjoyed those, but I would

go to, I forgot the largest store there.

669

:

I don't walk there and I'm,

and I get there and I'm like.

670

:

It's huge.

671

:

What?

672

:

Speaker 2: Probably up

the street you were in S

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:

Speaker: Yeah, I went to

lame and, um, Soriana.

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:

Speaker 2: Yes.

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:

Speaker: My God.

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:

Soriana had me.

677

:

I was like, oh, I gotta go.

678

:

Speaker 2: You wanna show cold?

679

:

Yes,

680

:

Speaker: it was too, it

was too overwhelming.

681

:

But I ended up, because I found myself

in, I would eat, like a lot of times I

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would eat brunch or a breakfast at home.

683

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Then I probably would go out for dinner.

684

:

Sometimes I would go for lunch or

whatever, but I, I just found myself going

685

:

to the little local markets and shopping

at the little local market up the street.

686

:

There was several up the street

and my eggs and avocados.

687

:

My 5 cent avocados that

cost $3 and 50 cents here

688

:

Speaker 2: be in la.

689

:

I've never seen a $3 avocado belly purple.

690

:

Right.

691

:

Look at you.

692

:

You have a girl.

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:

Speaker: Yeah.

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:

So your retreat, is it only for women who

already 100% sure that they want to move?

695

:

Or is it also for women who are just

exploring an idea, doing a scouting trip?

696

:

Like, is this the place for me

or is it for people who already

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:

know that they wanna move?

698

:

Speaker 2: It's a bit of both, right?

699

:

I think it's for women that want,

that are curious and wanna do it

700

:

in a very curated way, instead of

just buying a ticket, getting on

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:

the ground and then you're like.

702

:

Where am I?

703

:

It's very like, disorienting.

704

:

Um, so it's, yes, it's for

women that are curious.

705

:

It's also for people that are like, I know

that I do wanna move, and they're testing

706

:

out if Puerto De Erta is a space for them,

they're going over, they're going over

707

:

other details that maybe they'd missed.

708

:

Right?

709

:

Maybe they haven't explored the

immigration side of things yet.

710

:

Um, or maybe they've just been watching

like countless hours of YouTube videos

711

:

and they just need to be on the ground.

712

:

They're also open to mindset.

713

:

They're open to just being

grounded in that as well.

714

:

And it's also for people that have kids.

715

:

Like kids are welcome as well.

716

:

Blossom will be there like running around.

717

:

So yeah, bring your kids 'cause you wanna

know if your kids are gonna like it.

718

:

Speaker: Yeah.

719

:

Speaker 2: I brought Blossom with me,

obviously, and when we got here she was

720

:

complaining about hills and walking so.

721

:

When I found our permanent spot, I told

my realtor it needs to be flat 'cause I

722

:

don't wanna hear her fucking compress.

723

:

So knock.

724

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Speaker: So many women are exploring

the opportunity, the possibility,

725

:

but the other part of that, for some

people who may be leaving parents

726

:

behind or other brothers and sisters,

you told no one until it was a for

727

:

sure thing because one of the things

was people will also put their fear.

728

:

Onto you.

729

:

How do you help women work

through that fear, the guilt

730

:

or the doubt about leaving?

731

:

Yep.

732

:

Speaker 2: Honestly, I tell my clients,

don't tell anyone until you don't have to.

733

:

And then on top of that, we do

the mindset work as well, where I

734

:

have to ask, what are your fears?

735

:

Because, you know, fear is tied

to different things for people.

736

:

For some it's money, right?

737

:

And it's like, oh, how

much money do I need?

738

:

And, and, and different things like that.

739

:

Well, it's like if you

still have your job.

740

:

And average.

741

:

On average, it's 52% less to

live here than it is Los Angeles.

742

:

But they want you to prove that you make

around $4,300 a month USD, but you're

743

:

not really gonna live off of that.

744

:

And you have some wiggle room, right?

745

:

Like you realize that you are safe and

you are fine, and that you're not going to

746

:

spend as much as you did in the us, right?

747

:

In fact, hopefully you can save and

you should be able to save, right?

748

:

And so.

749

:

It's about working through those

different fears and that's where

750

:

hypnotherapy also comes in too.

751

:

We can just have a direct

conversation with your subconscious.

752

:

But I would say when it comes to

the guilt, that's something even

753

:

now that I work through, right?

754

:

Like some things are just emotions and

you just upcycle when you said things

755

:

are crazy in the world right now.

756

:

I like get on my phone and I

see someone else getting shot,

757

:

someone else getting murdered, and.

758

:

Heart.

759

:

Like I feel it, and I am listening to

my friends that are afraid about ice.

760

:

Right?

761

:

Like I said, I have a lot of friends that

are Mexican, and so it breaks my heart.

762

:

It really does.

763

:

Mm-hmm.

764

:

But I'm here too, to also just enjoy my

life and to be a, I don't wanna say be

765

:

an inspiration, but when you are living

your best life and your best self, it

766

:

inspires other people to also do that too.

767

:

So I'm always like, I have two bedrooms.

768

:

Speaker: Okay.

769

:

Speaker 2: You can flip together.

770

:

You can come, come visit.

771

:

You know what I mean?

772

:

I'm always that encourager

of like, just take a break.

773

:

I'm here.

774

:

So yeah, some of that stuff, I

just feel like it's a constant work

775

:

through, but when it comes to what

it's holding you to the uf, that's

776

:

what we can work through, right?

777

:

Like that's when we ask the questions

and we're like, okay, is it a money fear?

778

:

Is it.

779

:

Whatever really is usually tied around

money or like fear because people

780

:

Speaker: Exactly.

781

:

Speaker 2: I just dunno what to expect.

782

:

The cartel is gonna come capture me.

783

:

I'm like, nobody's thinking

about you, honestly,

784

:

Speaker: at all.

785

:

Speaker 2: Not nobody

786

:

Speaker: wants really.

787

:

For the woman that's listening right

now who is dreaming about making a

788

:

big change, what would you say to her?

789

:

Speaker 2: Just do it.

790

:

Speaker: Just do

791

:

Speaker 2: it.

792

:

Just do it.

793

:

It sounds so corny, but really just do it.

794

:

What's the worst that can happen?

795

:

I feel like if you already hate your life,

you're already at fucking rock bottom.

796

:

Like me, I broke up with someone that

I thought I was gonna be with forever.

797

:

I dealt with a job that fucking

drove me crazy, like what's

798

:

Speaker: the worst?

799

:

Yeah.

800

:

And for me, some of it was just,

I wanna do something different.

801

:

Yeah.

802

:

I wanna change.

803

:

I've always wanted to do this.

804

:

And at this point,

what's holding you back?

805

:

Speaker 2: Back?

806

:

Speaker: Just do it.

807

:

Speaker 2: To approach life.

808

:

Speaker: Do it ugly.

809

:

Just you know,

810

:

Speaker 2: do it.

811

:

Yeah.

812

:

Approach life with like a sense of fun.

813

:

I really think like the US

takes the fun out of life.

814

:

Life should be fun.

815

:

We should be exploring,

we should be reinventing.

816

:

Like when you think too

about being a black woman.

817

:

Like we embody like everything.

818

:

We are goddesses, we change our

819

:

Speaker: And they won.

820

:

Yeah.

821

:

Speaker 2: So change, you are free

to change and be you and evolve.

822

:

And if it doesn't work

out, that's just data.

823

:

That's information.

824

:

Speaker: Yeah.

825

:

Speaker 2: You go back and

826

:

Speaker: because they want you to

believe that you aren't all this

827

:

and you aren't who exactly you think

you are, but they are literally

828

:

copying and doing every thing.

829

:

Set the culture.

830

:

You are the magic.

831

:

Speaker 2: Yes.

832

:

Speaker: They're changing their

bodies and their facial structure,

833

:

their lips, and to emulate you.

834

:

Speaker 2: Yes.

835

:

Speaker: And your magic.

836

:

And that's why they're so angry.

837

:

It.

838

:

Trying to convince you that you

aren't exactly who you think you are.

839

:

Speaker 2: Yes.

840

:

And they're angry that

we're waking up too.

841

:

And so they wanna keep us distracted

and they wanna keep us sad,

842

:

and they wanna keep us in fear.

843

:

They wanna keep us worrying

about what's going on.

844

:

And yes, there are bad things going

on, but you suffering for other

845

:

people doesn't help them suffer less.

846

:

Speaker: What are some of the

biggest mistakes you think people

847

:

make when planning a move like this?

848

:

Speaker 2: Yeah, some mistakes that

I've made for sure was, and I kind

849

:

of posted about this, where I'm like,

I'm not gonna overcompensate anymore

850

:

for other people being asshole.

851

:

I went into it being like, I, yes,

I'm intentional, but I almost wanna

852

:

apologize for every white person

that's like, done anybody wrong.

853

:

You know what I mean?

854

:

And I felt like I was almost too

humble where I got taken advantage

855

:

of in certain situations, right?

856

:

And so I would say it's okay to

ask questions like, don't be an

857

:

asshole, but ask questions, get

clarity, get things in writing.

858

:

Don't get scammed.

859

:

Speaker: Yeah.

860

:

Yeah.

861

:

Speaker 2: I feel like are some of the

biggest mistake is almost just not knowing

862

:

what to ask, not knowing how to ask it.

863

:

Mm-hmm.

864

:

But just also being afraid

because you don't want to come

865

:

off as entitled or whatever.

866

:

Speaker: Yeah.

867

:

You know?

868

:

Yeah.

869

:

I'm all about this thing about at this

point, like romanticizing my life.

870

:

I'm trying to make things

as easy as possible.

871

:

You know, people think easy and

it means lazy and not working.

872

:

No, it just means I'm not

trying to hustle about anything.

873

:

Our nervous system as black women

is so fried, and one of the things I

874

:

noticed when I was there, it took me

a couple of days before I realized

875

:

that my shoulders weren't tense and

I wasn't walking around like this.

876

:

You're literally just, oh.

877

:

I can just breathe and walk and I'm

not getting up and rushing in it.

878

:

And I found like my schedule,

I have realized that like I'm

879

:

a slow mornings kind of girl.

880

:

Speaker 2: Yeah.

881

:

Speaker: I learned this in, in Mexico

and I thought, where am I rushing to?

882

:

Why am I getting up and

rushing and getting up?

883

:

I would take my drink, my macha, sit

out and watch the sun come up, and

884

:

oh, about 10 o'clock I strolled to

the croissant place down the street

885

:

to get my fresh baked croissants.

886

:

I was just strolling and calmly

strolling walking back to the house.

887

:

I work on the patio for a couple

of hours and I was like, what?

888

:

I'm not go walk to the beach for lunch

or, you know, that just I, so what does

889

:

a day look like for you in Blossom?

890

:

What does a day in Puerto Voy

yard to look like for you guys?

891

:

Speaker 2: Feel like if you didn't

hear that and get a little wet

892

:

or horny, like something's wrong

with you, you are describing that.

893

:

Crazy.

894

:

It looked not, that's how life should be.

895

:

Okay.

896

:

Speaker: Yes, exactly.

897

:

Speaker 2: I would say too, to also go

back, like not necessarily mistakes,

898

:

but I think people need to realize

too, is like integration takes time.

899

:

And we're so used to in the

US like having like things

900

:

instant, which is I think a lot.

901

:

What holds people back is like

the inconvenience of like an

902

:

Amazon or this or that, whatever.

903

:

Like things here are slow

things take time and it's okay.

904

:

And so that's something that you

have to, to work through, right?

905

:

That things just happen when they

happen and I think that is ease.

906

:

It's that flow.

907

:

Speaker: Yeah.

908

:

Speaker 2: A typical day for us though

is Blossom has to be at school at eight

909

:

Speaker: set home.

910

:

No slow warnings for you.

911

:

Speaker 2: Slow, but it's not as hectic.

912

:

It's not like get in the car and

drive and I walk her to school.

913

:

It's down the street.

914

:

And then after that I come

home, I go to the gym.

915

:

It's on the rooftop from my rooftop.

916

:

I see the ocean.

917

:

Right now it's whale season, so I

see little spouts of the animals.

918

:

They're really safe.

919

:

What It's whale time.

920

:

I think when you come to you, you can,

you, they, they should still be here.

921

:

You can do a tour if you want.

922

:

Yeah, so I go to the gym, I take

the shower, I go get coffee too, or

923

:

I make it at home and then I decide

if I wanna get on the computer

924

:

and like check what's happening.

925

:

Yeah.

926

:

Right.

927

:

I check my email or I decide I

get a content idea and I post

928

:

my phone up and I shoot them.

929

:

Con

930

:

Speaker: love your know your

new little shower confessionals,

931

:

your post-show confessional?

932

:

Speaker 2: No, I was asleep.

933

:

I'm gonna be downloading, uh, no,

sometimes I have floor time, um,

934

:

which is because the brokerage that

I'm with, we have some developments.

935

:

So if you are interested in buying hello.

936

:

But, um, I'll go sit in our sales

center right for a couple hours

937

:

and that's also really easy.

938

:

I get some people that come in, they just

ask a couple questions, or if not, I'm on

939

:

my computer working just again figuring

out ideas of how to get my message out.

940

:

And that too actually is so.

941

:

Freeing.

942

:

It was freeing, but it was a challenge.

943

:

I didn't realize that like I have a

DHD, because it did not feel quiet for

944

:

me that I was like, oh, I can't focus.

945

:

It's too quiet because I'm not

like, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.

946

:

I create the schedule and then

I pick blossom up from school.

947

:

She gets out at two, but on Mondays

and Wednesdays she does art and

948

:

she gets out at three 30, come

home, make dinner, we go swimming.

949

:

Or I take her to trampoline

place, like to jump.

950

:

It's like $8 to jump.

951

:

In LA Sky's only like $75.

952

:

Doesn't matter if you're a kid.

953

:

So yeah, the day just unfolds for us.

954

:

Sometimes we'll go get

955

:

Speaker: dinner.

956

:

Speaker 2: Um, again, because

eating out is, I have more

957

:

financial freedom and flexibility.

958

:

So we'll go to her favorite

restaurants where she knows like all

959

:

the waiters and she knows everybody

and she can just run around and yeah.

960

:

Speaker: When I was there, I, the first

several days I was there I was like,

961

:

I'm like, girl, stop spinning out here.

962

:

Like you El Chapo.

963

:

So.

964

:

I was, I was going here and

I was eating out every meal.

965

:

Then I go get snack for me.

966

:

I need to feel like, what does it feel

like to live here as I'm considering

967

:

where I wanna land when I move abroad?

968

:

I was like, you need to understand

what it feels like to live

969

:

there, not to vacation there.

970

:

And there's a big difference as the

first couple weeks, I'm just so excited.

971

:

I'm just like, I'm going here and there

and I wanna try all the places and all the

972

:

things and, and I was like, girl, hold up.

973

:

You were supposed to be

acting like you live here.

974

:

Speaker 2: I think the first

few weeks when I got here, it

975

:

was like vacation mode too.

976

:

We'd go out all the time.

977

:

And then it wasn't until I moved

here that we really started like

978

:

cooking at home, going to the

store and doing things like that.

979

:

But like say my day to day hasn't

changed necessarily 'cause I'm

980

:

still taking care of my daughter.

981

:

She still has to go to school.

982

:

But there is less rush, there's

less stress, there's this

983

:

less pressure to like produce.

984

:

Right?

985

:

And I don't have stressors and like

stimuli around me all the time.

986

:

Like I can go upstairs and go look

at the water, or I could honestly

987

:

lay in bed and look at the water.

988

:

I have the ocean view.

989

:

I can go out and like walk the

neighborhood and I'll probably see

990

:

somebody that I know from Blossom

School or from a restaurant or

991

:

whatever and you have a conversation.

992

:

And so that community, that ease, that

flow that grew feels really nice back

993

:

Speaker: if people would stop having

had seen me walking through the

994

:

neighborhood to stop and talk to me,

995

:

Speaker 2: yeah, it's community, right?

996

:

Speaker: I don't have any problem

going to eat by myself now.

997

:

Yeah.

998

:

That's never been a thing.

999

:

But you, I'll go out to eat and

next thing you know I'm, I have.

:

00:43:09,093 --> 00:43:12,153

Ended up having conversations with

the person at the next table and,

:

00:43:12,393 --> 00:43:13,773

oh, you should go try this place.

:

00:43:13,773 --> 00:43:14,523

And we live right here.

:

00:43:14,553 --> 00:43:15,693

Oh, I live right there too.

:

00:43:15,693 --> 00:43:20,343

And just, just so many

kind and friendly people.

:

00:43:20,553 --> 00:43:22,923

And you have to change your

mindset even about that.

:

00:43:22,923 --> 00:43:23,853

Why are you so friendly?

:

00:43:23,853 --> 00:43:24,333

To me, what?

:

00:43:24,633 --> 00:43:25,398

What's the scam

:

00:43:28,203 --> 00:43:29,523

is you have to get out of that.

:

00:43:29,703 --> 00:43:34,053

Speaker 2: It's so weird too, when you

are used to having your guard up all

:

00:43:34,053 --> 00:43:35,673

the time when people are nice to you.

:

00:43:35,673 --> 00:43:36,363

Like, what do you want?

:

00:43:36,363 --> 00:43:36,453

What.

:

00:43:37,203 --> 00:43:38,373

Speaker: What's the ulterior motive?

:

00:43:38,403 --> 00:43:39,183

Speaker 2: What's the scam?

:

00:43:39,183 --> 00:43:41,553

But people are genuinely nice here, right?

:

00:43:43,023 --> 00:43:43,473

Yeah.

:

00:43:43,623 --> 00:43:47,253

That's the beauty too, of like

being in another country or like

:

00:43:47,553 --> 00:43:49,653

building your life and starting over.

:

00:43:49,653 --> 00:43:51,633

Is that play right?

:

00:43:51,633 --> 00:43:52,893

That, do you wanna do this?

:

00:43:52,893 --> 00:43:54,303

Do you wanna come hang out?

:

00:43:54,303 --> 00:43:56,913

It's that openness, it, that friendliness.

:

00:43:56,913 --> 00:43:57,648

I do don't.

:

00:43:59,163 --> 00:44:04,503

So many people here that are rebuilding

and regrouping and all of the things.

:

00:44:04,503 --> 00:44:05,013

So

:

00:44:05,043 --> 00:44:05,403

Speaker: yeah.

:

00:44:05,673 --> 00:44:08,403

And I was actually surprised

by the black community there.

:

00:44:08,403 --> 00:44:12,333

There are so many black people that

have moved there and started businesses.

:

00:44:12,573 --> 00:44:14,943

My favorite place was the Brooklyn Cafe.

:

00:44:14,973 --> 00:44:15,093

Mm-hmm.

:

00:44:15,333 --> 00:44:17,583

I fell in love with the place,

the food, the people, and I'm

:

00:44:17,583 --> 00:44:19,683

like, black people from New York.

:

00:44:19,923 --> 00:44:20,433

What?

:

00:44:21,723 --> 00:44:22,203

Speaker 2: Yeah.

:

00:44:22,593 --> 00:44:28,203

It's incredible too, and yeah, most

people are just so friendly, so open,

:

00:44:28,203 --> 00:44:34,473

ready to share tips, ready to just

help you have a smooth integration.

:

00:44:34,533 --> 00:44:34,953

Right.

:

00:44:35,103 --> 00:44:35,403

Um,

:

00:44:35,433 --> 00:44:35,763

Speaker: yeah,

:

00:44:35,763 --> 00:44:38,058

Speaker 2: I would say

too, because this is a.

:

00:44:39,753 --> 00:44:43,323

This is like a country, or this is a

place where people come and they regroup

:

00:44:43,323 --> 00:44:46,443

and sometimes they kind of get what they

need to get and they're onto the next

:

00:44:46,443 --> 00:44:50,133

very transient lifestyle here, where

it's like you make your friends, you

:

00:44:50,133 --> 00:44:54,723

hold onto it, you cherish the moments

you're in the present because then.

:

00:44:54,928 --> 00:44:56,758

They're like, oh, we're moving to the dr.

:

00:44:56,848 --> 00:45:00,118

You know this part of Mexico next.

:

00:45:00,118 --> 00:45:02,068

And so there's also that too.

:

00:45:02,068 --> 00:45:04,258

There's this movement of people.

:

00:45:04,648 --> 00:45:04,948

Speaker: Yeah.

:

00:45:05,038 --> 00:45:05,578

Speaker 2: And yeah.

:

00:45:05,578 --> 00:45:05,588

Speaker: Yeah.

:

00:45:05,638 --> 00:45:10,228

Well, diamond, this has been

so enlightening and I'm so

:

00:45:10,228 --> 00:45:11,548

glad I got to talk to you.

:

00:45:11,548 --> 00:45:12,058

I know, right?

:

00:45:12,898 --> 00:45:13,078

It.

:

00:45:14,583 --> 00:45:15,543

Your story.

:

00:45:15,543 --> 00:45:19,173

Like I said, I was so intrigued by your

story when I first met you, and I know

:

00:45:19,173 --> 00:45:24,513

this conversation is going to inspire

so many women to think differently about

:

00:45:24,573 --> 00:45:29,343

what's possible for their lives, and

that's kind of my whole thing here, and I

:

00:45:29,433 --> 00:45:33,903

want people to know that there's so many

opportunities and so many other ways to

:

00:45:33,903 --> 00:45:36,273

live, and people are doing it every day.

:

00:45:36,543 --> 00:45:37,563

You are the magic.

:

00:45:37,563 --> 00:45:40,713

You can do anything, go anywhere, be.

:

00:45:41,688 --> 00:45:43,398

Do whatever the hell you want.

:

00:45:44,568 --> 00:45:51,708

Before we go, tell everyone where they can

find you and learn more about this shift.

:

00:45:52,158 --> 00:45:53,898

How to connect with you.

:

00:45:54,168 --> 00:45:55,398

What do you want us to know?

:

00:45:55,608 --> 00:45:56,418

Speaker 2: All the things.

:

00:45:56,418 --> 00:45:56,658

Yeah.

:

00:45:56,658 --> 00:45:59,238

So you can follow me at Citizen Dip.

:

00:45:59,388 --> 00:46:01,188

Like Citizen Dip.

:

00:46:01,998 --> 00:46:02,418

Speaker: You know what?

:

00:46:02,418 --> 00:46:03,768

I'm just figuring out what that meant.

:

00:46:04,743 --> 00:46:06,813

Speaker 2: Wrong qua citizenship.

:

00:46:06,813 --> 00:46:07,923

She's citizen dip.

:

00:46:08,103 --> 00:46:08,463

Okay.

:

00:46:08,463 --> 00:46:09,963

He Citizen dip.

:

00:46:09,963 --> 00:46:11,763

Citizen Dip, uh, on ig.

:

00:46:13,743 --> 00:46:13,953

There.

:

00:46:13,953 --> 00:46:18,663

I have my stand store where you

can book a free relocation clarity

:

00:46:18,663 --> 00:46:20,733

call where I answer your questions.

:

00:46:20,733 --> 00:46:22,473

You can see if a move is good for you.

:

00:46:22,803 --> 00:46:27,033

I have a quiz that you can take too,

so you can start narrowing down some

:

00:46:27,033 --> 00:46:32,433

locations in Mexico because Mexico is

vast and I feel like again, the US played

:

00:46:32,433 --> 00:46:36,633

us and we think Cabo, we think Cancun

and we think cartel and we think tacos.

:

00:46:36,903 --> 00:46:41,193

But there are 32 states within

Mexico that offer different.

:

00:46:41,853 --> 00:46:47,283

Textures, cultures, customs,

weather, you know, coasts, mountains,

:

00:46:47,313 --> 00:46:48,573

all the different things, right?

:

00:46:49,263 --> 00:46:51,483

Um, so you can start doing research there.

:

00:46:51,843 --> 00:46:56,343

I also have hypnotherapy, which

is on a pay, what you can model.

:

00:46:56,343 --> 00:46:59,313

And then I also have like,

wow, a tiered pricing, right?

:

00:46:59,313 --> 00:47:01,828

But healing should be accessible.

:

00:47:02,103 --> 00:47:04,773

And I feel like, like you said, you

can do whatever the fuck you want.

:

00:47:04,773 --> 00:47:07,533

You have to tack into that knowing

that you can do whatever you want.

:

00:47:07,533 --> 00:47:10,293

And hypnotherapy is a really

great gateway to do that.

:

00:47:10,833 --> 00:47:16,503

The shift is happening in June 22nd

through June 28th here in Puerto

:

00:47:16,503 --> 00:47:21,423

Vallarta, and I also offer, yes,

one-on-one coaching, but group

:

00:47:21,423 --> 00:47:24,573

coaching that will start February 26th.

:

00:47:24,633 --> 00:47:26,403

It's called Safe passage.

:

00:47:27,153 --> 00:47:31,833

That is a course that you can follow

where I go over different modules

:

00:47:32,043 --> 00:47:34,233

and then we have live q and a.

:

00:47:34,263 --> 00:47:37,053

So after you watch the module or

as you're navigating your move and

:

00:47:37,053 --> 00:47:40,293

you're like Diamond girl, like what's

the team we're having conversation.

:

00:47:41,583 --> 00:47:47,583

Then the alternative week, we have guest

speakers that are in wellness therapists

:

00:47:47,763 --> 00:47:50,248

astrologers, someone that is, oh,

:

00:47:50,248 --> 00:47:51,153

Speaker: that sounds amazing, right?

:

00:47:51,273 --> 00:47:51,693

Speaker 2: Yes.

:

00:47:51,693 --> 00:47:52,233

And Dr.

:

00:47:52,233 --> 00:47:56,493

Joe Dispenza's teachings on how you

talk to yourself, because how you

:

00:47:56,493 --> 00:47:57,993

talk to yourself is so important.

:

00:47:58,233 --> 00:47:59,913

Um, she does healing seat.

:

00:48:00,333 --> 00:48:00,753

Basically.

:

00:48:00,753 --> 00:48:02,793

You get in the seat and

you have a heel session.

:

00:48:02,823 --> 00:48:03,513

It's so cool.

:

00:48:03,603 --> 00:48:03,783

So,

:

00:48:03,933 --> 00:48:04,563

Speaker: wow.

:

00:48:04,563 --> 00:48:05,013

Okay.

:

00:48:05,013 --> 00:48:05,313

Speaker 2: Yeah.

:

00:48:05,313 --> 00:48:09,183

So again, it's marrying that

logistics and the mind, right.

:

00:48:10,038 --> 00:48:14,298

And also too, I give you just all of

my resources, so all the facilitators

:

00:48:14,298 --> 00:48:17,028

where you should go do immigration,

where you should get your tax

:

00:48:17,028 --> 00:48:18,708

information, who you should bank with.

:

00:48:18,708 --> 00:48:20,688

Like it's all in one place.

:

00:48:21,078 --> 00:48:22,278

And yeah,

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Speaker: D has all the things.

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So if you're interested in

Mexico, the information will

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also be in the show notes.

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Thank you so much, diamond.

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This has been so amazing and

I can't wait to get back.

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I'm jealous.

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I see your videos and I'm like, so

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Speaker 2: April will be here soon enough.

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