Episode 43
Nobody Knows You Exist (And That's the Problem). What is PR - And Why Black Women Entrepreneurs Need It Now
The visibility gap is real — and it's costing us.
You're showing up. You're posting. You're creating. And somehow you still feel like nobody actually knows you exist. In this episode, Octavia pulls from her 20+ years in PR — spanning the NBA, Fortune 500 companies, music, film, and TV — to give you something the industry never made accessible to us: a real breakdown of how visibility actually works.
This isn't a branding masterclass. It's a direct conversation about why Black women entrepreneurs, solopreneurs, and creators keep getting overlooked — and what you can do about it without a $10,000-a-month retainer.
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Transcript
Hey, lovelies.
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:Welcome back to Culture Lit, the podcast
where we celebrate Black women's love
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:stories, talk books that actually see
us, and have honest conversations about
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:building a life that feels like yours.
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:I'm your host, Octavia Marie, and
today we're doing something a little
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:different from our usual book talk.
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:Actually, scratch that.
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:We're not doing something different.
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:This is still very much Culture
Lit, but today I'm pulling from the
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:other half of my life, the half that
I don't talk about enough on this
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:show, and honestly, that's my fault.
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:So here's what I wanna
say before we get into it.
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:Some of you have been listening
to this podcast for a while.
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:You know me as the romance reader,
the soft life advocate, the woman
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:who's been planning her move abroad
and taking you along for the ride.
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:But what a lot of you don't know, and
I realized this recently when a friend
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:pointed it out, is that I have been
doing public relations for over 20 years.
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:20 years.
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:NBA teams, professional athletes,
music, film and TV, Fortune 500
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:companies, boutique agencies.
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:I have done it on every side of this
industry, and somewhere along the way, I
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:just didn't lead with that on this show.
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:Maybe because PR felt too corporate
for what we've been building here.
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:Maybe because the soft life era I'm
stepping into made me want to leave
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:that hustle-adjacent world behind.
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:But the truth is, what I know about
PR is exactly why I can talk to you
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:about visibility in a way that most
people can't, because I've seen it
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:from the inside for two decades.
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:So today's episode is for you if you are
building something, a brand, a business, a
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:creative practice, a community, and you're
doing all the things, posting, showing up,
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:creating content, and somehow you still
feel like nobody actually knows you exist.
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:I've been there.
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:My clients have been there,
and I wanna talk about why.
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:But first, I need to set a foundation
because I've had too many women
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:come to me confused about what
these three things even are.
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:So before we talk visibility, we have
to talk about branding, marketing,
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:and PR and how they're different.
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:Because if you don't know the
difference, honey, you will keep
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:spending your energy in the wrong places.
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:I wanna start here because I've
watched smart, talented women, Black
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:women especially, invest time, money,
and energy into things they call PR
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:when it's actually marketing or call
marketing when it's actually branding,
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:and the mix-up costs them So let
me break it down in plain language.
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:Branding is who you are.
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:It's your taste, your perspective,
your standards, your reputation.
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:It's the emotional association
people have with your name before
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:you ever try to sell them anything.
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:Think about the Miu Miu girl.
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:You know her before you see a logo.
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:The slightly undone hair,
the vintage references, the
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:intellectual but chaotic styling.
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:The girl who looks like she reads
Joan Didion but also chain-smokes
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:outside a Fashion Week after-party.
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:That's branding, not just clothes.
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:An identity people recognize immediately
and want to associate themselves with.
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:Branding is who you are
before you explain yourself.
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:And here's what that means for us.
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:Your branding is already
happening, whether you're
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:intentional about it or not.
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:How you show up online, how you respond
to DMs, the kinds of stories you tell,
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:the things you associate yourself with.
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:People are forming an impression.
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:The question is whether you're shaping
it or letting it happen by default.
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:Marketing is how people find you.
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:It's the campaigns, the launches,
the emails, the partnerships, the
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:content strategy, the social media.
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:Marketing is how you get
people's attention and move
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:them toward what you offer.
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:Think about Jacquemus, the giant
handbags rolling through Paris in a
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:tiny car, the lavender field runway,
the campaigns built to dominate
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:Pinterest and TikTok for weeks.
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:That's marketing.
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:It's how people discover the brand.
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:It's the visibility strategy that
gets people talking, sharing,
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:clicking, paying attention.
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:But here's the key.
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:The reason it works is because
there's a strong brand underneath it.
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:Marketing without branding is just noise.
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:And then there's PR.
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:PR is reputation management
through earned media.
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:It's what other people say about you on
your behalf in spaces you didn't pay for.
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:A journalist writes about you.
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:A podcast host interviews you.
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:A magazine editor
includes you in a roundup.
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:An editor at a major
publication assigns your story.
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:That's PR.
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:And the reason it's different from
marketing is that you didn't buy it.
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:Somebody decided you were worth
covering, and that third-party
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:credibility, it hits differently than
anything you could say about yourself.
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:Here's my definition.
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:PR is not what you say about your brand.
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:It's what other people say
about your brand on your behalf.
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:Read that again.
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:What other people say about
your brand on your behalf.
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:That is the whole game.
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:Because when a journalist, a podcast
host, a magazine editor tells your
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:story, it carries weight that your
own Instagram caption never will.
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:Because it's not you talking.
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:It's somebody else saying, "This
person is worth your attention So
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:to recap, branding is who you are.
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:Marketing is how people find you.
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:PR is what other people say about you.
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:All three matter, but
they do different things.
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:And if you're only doing one, which
is usually social media marketing, you
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:are leaving visibility on the table.
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:Here's why I felt called to
make this episode right now.
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:Hundreds of thousands of Black
women in the US have lost
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:their jobs in the last year.
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:That's not an exaggeration.
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:That's a documented reality that
isn't getting nearly enough attention.
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:And at the same time, and this is the part
that matters for today's conversation,
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:Black women are the fastest growing
group of entrepreneurs in America.
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:We are starting businesses at a rate
that outpaces every other demographic.
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:But here's the tension.
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:Most of us are doing it alone.
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:Solopreneurs, under-resourced,
without the infrastructure that
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:corporate brands take for granted.
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:No PR agency on retainer,
no communications team,
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:no media relationships.
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:And I've had too many women tell me about
bad experiences with PR professionals.
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:Either they were overcharged for things
that didn't deliver, or they were handed
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:a strategy that wasn't built for where
they actually were in their business.
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:So I understand the
hesitation, I really do.
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:But here's what I also know.
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:The visibility gap is real, and it's
costing us, because if people can't find
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:you, none of the rest of it matters.
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:Now, this is something that might
sting a little, so stay with me.
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:Posting on Instagram is not PR.
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:I know.
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:I know.
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:But just hear me out.
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:When you post on Instagram, your
content stays inside the metasphere.
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:It doesn't leave.
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:It doesn't get indexed by Google.
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:It doesn't show up when somebody
who has never heard of you
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:goes looking for what you do.
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:The algorithm might push it to your
followers, maybe, and on a good
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:day, it reaches a few new people.
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:But the moment they close
the app, you're gone.
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:Here's the analogy I use with my clients.
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:Social media is like having a
conversation at a party, and PR is
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:like being written up in a magazine.
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:One happens in a room, the
other lives in the world.
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:Now, parties are important.
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:I'm not saying stop going.
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:But if you want people who
weren't at the party to know who
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:you are, you need the writeup.
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:And I want to add something to this
conversation that I don't hear enough
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:people discussing, because it's
changing the game right now as we speak.
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:People are using AI as a search
engine, not just Google, not
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:just typing into a search bar.
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:They are asking Claude, asking ChatGPT,
asking Perplexity, "Who should I
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:follow for Black women's wellness?"
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:"Who are the top Black
romance podcasters?"
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:Who's an expert in PR for entrepreneurs?
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:Who should I read on soft life living?
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:These AI tools are
answering those questions.
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:And where are they getting
the information to answer?
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:The internet.
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:Specifically, articles, interviews,
press features, published
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:content, media placements.
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:Here’s the thing about social media
that most people don’t realize.
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:Not all of it gets indexed by Google.
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:Your TikToks, a lot of your Instagram
content, it stays inside those platforms.
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:It doesn’t necessarily show
up in a regular web search.
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:Which means it’s also less likely
to make it into the sources
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:that AI tools are pulling from
when they put together answers.
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:But a published interview on a media site?
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:A feature in an online magazine?
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:A podcast interview that gets
transcribed and posted on a website?
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:A contributor article?
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:That content lives on the internet
in a way that search engines can
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:find—and that AI tools can reference.
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:So when someone asks Claude or
ChatGPT who to follow in your
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:space, the people who show up are
the ones who have media coverage.
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:Who have been written about.
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:Who have bylines.
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:Who have interviews that
got published and indexed.
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:All that posting—and I say this
with love because I have done
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:it too—won’t show up there.
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:Earned media will.
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:That is a very specific kind of visibility
that social media alone cannot give you.
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:And it is more important
now than it has ever been.
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:That is what PR is supposed to do.
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:And that’s why I’m talking about it.
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:Part of this is because
nobody explained PR to us.
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:And I mean that literally.
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:The industry historically was not built
to serve us, which meant we weren’t in
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:rooms where this stuff was being taught.
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:So when most people hear PR,
they think celebrity publicists.
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:Red carpets.
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:Crisis management for people who got
caught doing something they shouldn’t.
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:But that is a fraction of what
public relations actually is.
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:PR is reputation.
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:PR is storytelling.
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:PR is everything that shapes
how the world perceives you
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:before you ever open your mouth.
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:And you need it whether
you know it or not.
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:Here’s what really drove this home for me.
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:And this came up in a conversation
with someone I respect enormously.
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:We were talking about visibility,
about why talented Black women
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:with real expertise keep getting
overlooked, and she said something
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:I’ve been thinking about ever since.
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:She was talking about her own situation.
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:Large project out.
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:A corporate PR team
assisting in a small way.
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:Great reviews.
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:A following.
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:And she said, “I just
need to get in the room.
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:Once I’m in the room, I’m fine.”
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:And she’s right.
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:She absolutely is.
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:But what PR does is make sure people know
to put you in the room in the first place.
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:Because if someone has to already
know who you are to give you the
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:opportunity, you're always going to be
dependent on who happens to know you.
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:PR makes people who don't know
you yet decide they want to.
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:That is a very different kind of
visibility, and it changes everything.
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:Before we go further, I have to
tell you about Jane and Bloom.
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:If you're in a season of rebuilding,
whether that's your body, your
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:nervous system, your relationship
with yourself, Jane and Bloom
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:has curated products designed
specifically for that kind of healing.
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:Clean, thoughtful, beautiful.
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:Go check them out at janeandbloom.com.
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:And if you're picking up a new book
after this episode, and you will be,
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:please shop through our bookshop link.
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:It's bookshop.org/shop/culturelitpodcast.
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:When you buy there, you're
supporting this show and independent
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:bookstores at the same time.
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:That's a win every single time.
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:Okay, back to it.
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:I want to be really clear about
something before we go any further.
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:You do not need to hire a public
relations agency to do PR.
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:I am a PR expert.
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:I am telling you this.
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:You do not need me or anyone
like me to start building your
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:visibility through earned media.
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:What you need is a strategy and
the willingness to do the work.
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:And that is exactly why I am building
the Visibility Architect framework.
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:Because I looked around at how
many Black women entrepreneurs were
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:under-resourced, under-visible, and
disconnected from the tools that
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:corporate brands take for granted.
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:And I said, "That is a gap I can close."
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:The framework is simple.
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:It doesn't require an agency.
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:It doesn't require a ten
thousand dollar a month retainer.
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:What it requires is that you get clear on
your story, who needs to hear it, and how
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:to put it in front of the right people.
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:Let me break that down.
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:The first thing I ask every client, and
what I want you to ask yourself right now,
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:is this: What is the one thing you want
someone to believe about you after they
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:encounter your brand for the first time?
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:Not, "I want them to know my services."
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:Not, "I want them to follow me."
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:I want to know what you
want them to believe.
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:Because PR is not information delivery.
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:PR is perception building.
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:When a recent author I interviewed
talked about her book, she's not
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:just saying, "Here is a book about
spirituality and human design."
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:She's saying, "I can help high-achieving
people stop intellectualizing their
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:healing and actually live it."
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:That's a belief.
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:That's a transformation.
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:That's something a journalist
can write a story around.
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:What's yours?
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:This is the work that has to happen
before you pitch a single person.
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:Because if you don't know what story
you're telling, nobody can tell it
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:for you Once you know your story,
you need to know where it belongs.
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:And here's where it gets a
little complicated because the
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:media landscape has changed
dramatically in the last decade.
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:I'm going to give you the honest version.
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:Staff writers at major publications,
a lot of them are gone.
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:Publications that used to have full
editorial teams now have skeleton
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:crews or have gone entirely digital.
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:The journalist who covered wellness
at a major outlet for seven years, she
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:might be freelancing now, writing for
ten different publications at once.
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:And if you pitch the wrong email
at a publication that no longer has
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:staff, you're not getting a response.
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:This is not a reason to give up on media.
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:This is a reason to do your
research before you pitch.
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:Here's what I tell my clients.
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:Before you send a single pitch,
go to that publication's website.
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:Find a recent article in the
section you're targeting.
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:Look at the byline.
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:Google that writer's name.
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:Find out if they're still there,
if they're freelance, what
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:they've been covering lately.
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:LinkedIn is your friend here.
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:Muck Rack is your friend.
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:You want to pitch a
person, not a publication.
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:Because pitching Essence
Magazine is not a pitch.
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:Pitching Carla, the wellness editor
who covers Black women's spiritual
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:practices with a specific story she
hasn't covered yet, that's a pitch.
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:I am going to keep this simple because
there are entire courses on pitching,
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:and I don't want to overwhelm you.
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:A good pitch has three things.
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:One, a hook.
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:Something timely, surprising, or
emotionally specific that makes the
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:journalist think, "My readers need this."
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:Two, your credentials.
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:Not a laundry list.
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:The one or two things that make you
the right person to tell this story.
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:Three, a clear ask.
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:What do you want?
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:An interview?
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:A feature?
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:To be included as an expert source?
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:Say it directly.
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:Journalists don't have time to
figure out what you're asking for.
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:That's it.
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:One paragraph hook, one paragraph
credentials, one sentence ask.
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:Under three hundred words.
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:Clear subject line.
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:No attachments on the first email.
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:I know it sounds too simple.
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:It's not.
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:The simplest pitches work best because
you're not making a journalist do extra
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:work to understand why they should care.
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:You're doing that work for them.
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:We are almost to the part I really
want to get to, so stay with me.
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:Quick reminder.
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:If you found this episode useful, the
best thing you can do is share it.
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:Send it to the friend who's been talking
about wanting visibility for her business.
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:Send it to the woman who's posting every
day and wondering why it's not working.
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:This information is free, and it should
be free because we deserve access to it.
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:And shop your books at
bookshop.org/shop/culturelitpodcast.
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:I need to be honest with you about
something because this show has
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:always been a space where we don't
sugarcoat the structural stuff.
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:PR has a race problem.
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:I don't say that to be incendiary.
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:I say it because I have worked in this
industry for over twenty years, and I
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:have watched talented Black women get
passed over, under-pitched, and erased
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:from their own stories in ways that have
nothing to do with their expertise and
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:everything to do with who a producer,
editor, or booker considers the right fit.
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:I was in a conversation recently where
a Black author, Ivy League-credentialed,
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:big publishing house deal,
endorsements from people you know,
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:told me she'd been passed over twice
by the same national morning show.
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:The second time, they reached out to
her directly, said they were interested,
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:and then canceled two days later.
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:The episode aired with a
white astrologer instead.
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:That is not a coincidence, and
we don't have to pretend it is.
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:What that means strategically, and I
wanna give you the practical version of
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:this, is that when you're building your
media list, you need to be intentional
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:about where you're spending your energy.
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:There are outlets that will see
you, and there are outlets where no
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:matter how good your pitch is, the
gatekeeping is structural, not personal.
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:Structural.
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:Black-led publications, multicultural
outlets, progressive wellness
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:media, independent platforms,
these are not consolation prizes.
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:These are where your
story lands correctly.
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:And a placement in Essence or The Root
or Black Enterprise does more for your
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:credibility with your actual audience
than a ten-second mention on a show
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:that had to be convinced you exist.
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:Lead with the media that leads for you.
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:Work outward from there.
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:Okay, here's what I wanna leave you with.
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:You are not invisible because
you're not good enough.
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:You are not invisible because
your story isn't worth telling.
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:You are invisible because nobody has
put the infrastructure in place to
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:make you findable, and that is fixable.
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:It doesn't require a big budget.
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:It doesn't require going viral.
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:It requires knowing your story,
knowing who needs to hear it, and
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:putting it in front of the people who
have the platform to say it for you.
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:One good placement can change
your entire trajectory.
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:I have seen it happen.
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:I've made it happen for clients, and
I've watched it happen organically
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:when someone finally got clear
on what they were trying to say.
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:And with AI changing how people
search, how they discover experts,
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:how they get recommendations Being
findable on the actual internet
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:matters more now than it ever has.
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:You have more power here than the
algorithm wants you to believe,
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:and I wanna help you use it.
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:If this episode resonated with you,
if you've been sitting on a story you
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:don't know how to pitch, or you've been
posting into the void and wondering
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:what you're missing, come find me.
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:I'm on Instagram and Threads
at, @becomingoctavia.
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:Send me a DM.
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:Tell me what you're building.
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:I read everything.
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:And if you wanna go deeper into
the Visibility Architect framework,
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:stay close because I have more
coming for you on this show.
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:This is just the beginning
of that conversation.
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:I appreciate you, and I
mean that every single time.
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:And one last reminder: you deserve
to be at the table and in every room,
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:so be unapologetic, be authentic,
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